Updated: Jun 13, 2018
If you are too sensitive right now, if you want to only connect with the good vibration of life – do not read this content!
Real People, Real Kids, Real Love, Real Life
True love it’s not about colors our loving quotes, it’s about to put in practice the respect for life, the respect for oneself and others.
“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive.” DALAI LAMA
This subject it’s about what is going on with a lot of our children in schools, at home... in their life. It’s not about blaming parents, teachers or eve our kids... but it’s a waking up call for all of us... we really need to transform and heal our hearts, minds... or we can lose our souls and hope in life, in beauty and in love.
In the other day, I started to see “13 Reasons Why”, a series at Netflix. I thought: “teenagers style, good music, good photography, easy dialogues... good to distract myself for a beat.”
First 3 episodes where easy, but then... was so strong... so intense I couldn’t stop.
“Thirteen Reasons Why is a young adult novel written in 2007 by Jay Asher. It is the story of a young high school student as she descends into despair brought on by betrayal and bullying, culminating with her suicide. She details the thirteen reasons why in an audio diary which was mailed to a friend two weeks after her death."
Thirteen Reasons Why has received recognition and awards from several young adult literary associations, and the paperback edition reached #1 on the New York Times Best Seller list in July 2011.
Through this I was in touch in a very close way to what many teenagers go through feeling lonely, without anyone to speak, the intense feelings without understanding and loosing hope on themselves and in life itself.
It’s so deep and touching to see how we all are so disconnected, so busy with ourselves, so full of fears, doubts that we can’t even reach our kids...
We don’t teach them to deal with sexuality, anger, fear, lack of self-esteem, respect, capacity to say no... because we, as a society in general, weren’t taught about it.... we were taught to compete, to hide, to give more attention to what others think about us than to what we think, what we feel.... and then off course everyone, in general, live from that space of suspicious, from fear, from wanting to hide their own sensibility, their thoughts, their feelings, their sexuality and just wanting to full fill their own desires that comes from lack of love and peace.
Bulling is real, bulling is killing our teenagers...maybe they don’t die in the physical way... but they start to die inside, and they start to believe they aren’t worthy allowing others to abuse them, because they don’t recognize themselves as a human being that deserves love, respect and affection.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them.” DALAI LAMA
If you are a parent or a teacher you can help your kids if you become more aware of yourself, acknowledging your own difficulties and working through it.
By doing it, by working with yourself you will be a fountain of honesty and courage to kids... when you grow in self-respect, self-love, responsibility for your actions, when you are clear about your principals, values and limits you can say NO so you can say YES to life, to respect, to love.
I know that educating a child doesn’t have rules, it’s not a fix and easy work.... sometimes we aren’t sure about many things. When dealing with different children we understand that what works for one doesn’t work for another...different realities, different feelings, different sensibilities.
It’s not easy to arrive home tired from work and staying present for them... many of us crave a little moment of silence and rest... and many times we don’t see what is going on... and for many, even being present for our kids, they don’t allow parents to come in... so it’s not about blaming no one... it’s about becoming more open for ourselves and for them... it’s about doing choices during life, it’s about to choose to be more connected with our growth so we can support their own growth.
Here´s an Audio Meditation for Parents that can help you in your daily life:
WE NEED TO teach them to speak their truth, to trust in themselves, to tell them that we can all argue but we are not alone and doesn’t meaning that we stop loving each other, and we can ask for help.
We need to teach them and to pass the confidence that is normal to have difficulties, that is human to feel angry, to feel jealousies, to feel week, to feel that we do not fit in....is human to act out through becoming aggressive and putting others down.... BUT IS HUMAN to transform and to grow. The abused one and the abuser are people, children that need both help! WE NEED TO HELP OUR KIDS.
The abused one and the abuser are someone’s children, they both need your help.
If you are their classmate, if you are their teacher, if you are their parents you need to help them to go through their difficulties... and helping sometimes is just to let them know that they are seen, that they matter, that you care truly.
The impact of 13 Reasons Why was so strong in society that many criticisms came out. I think it was very good what have provoked, it putted us to think, to feel, to care. I’m still very touched. I didn’t show it to my kids because they are too young, but I spoke about it and opened a new possibility for more sharing, more intimacy. If you are to sensible it will touch you and maybe it’s not a good idea to see.
Please go there, they have so good content to help teenagers, teachers, parents.... go there and learn how you can support our future generation.
Here it is some content that i feel it´s important to share from: https://www.crisistextline.org/blog/13reasonswhy:
“8 Things to Remember if You Just Watched '13 Reasons Why'
Whatever you’re feeling is valid. The series is intense, and if you’re feeling upset about the events depicted, you’re not alone. Do whatever you need for yourself, whether that’s talking to a loved one about how you feel or enjoying some time away from your screen.
Take warning signs of suicide seriously. If someone you care about is showing warning signs of suicide, take action. Start by talking to them about what they’re going through and let them know you care. Listening non-judgmentally and sharing your concern can help them stay safe.
There are people who want to - and can - give support. While many of the adult characters on 13 Reasons Why struggle to give meaningful support, seeking help is valuable and life-saving. And even if someone doesn’t know the best way to help, they can help you find someone who does.
Talking helps. It may not seem like much, but talking about how you’re feeling or what you’re going through. goes a long way. Whether it’s to a friend, parent, or anyone else you trust, telling someone that you’re struggling means not having to be alone in your pain.
Struggling isn’t weakness. The issues that characters face in the show - including mental illness, bullying, and sexual assault - can happen to anyone. Talking about them, coping with them, and recovering shows immense strength.
Death by suicide is irreversible. Hannah Baker remains present in the lives of her classmates after her death, but this doesn’t happen in real life. The loss survivors left behind by a suicide can experience intense grief, including feelings of guilt, shame, anger, and helplessness.
There is always hope. If you’re struggling, know that how you’re feeling now isn’t how you’ll feel forever. It’s always still possible to recover and have a full life.
We’re here for you. Trained Crisis Counselors are ready to support you, 24/7. Text HOME to 741741 for free crisis support.”